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ITALIANS STRIKE BACK
SOME OF US AREN'T EVEN IN THE
MAFIA--IMAGINE THAT!
The Westchester County Weekly
By Elisa Flynn
Published 08/09/01
As an Italian-American I am SICK TO DEATH of The Sopranos phenomena
and the never-ending depiction of Italians as one-dimensional, cartoon
mafioso figures. It's insulting to see your ethnic group constantly
compared
with and depicted as one very small facet of that group's most negative
side.
We have finally reached the point where ethnic groups traditionally
put down
and marginalized by the media, e.g. African-Americans, are being depicted
as multi-dimensional, complex and interesting human beings. If African-
Americans were put down and mocked as blatantly as Italians are, there
would be lawsuits, protests and an information campaign. But with us
there
is nothing.
Why are so many young and not so young men more than happy to emulate
Tony and his crew? Why is TV's idea of mob fashion considered de riguer?
This is not glamorous! This is not acceptable behaviour! Just because
a
character goes to a shrink doesn't make him an all right guy. He still
cheats
on his wife. He still participates in illegal activity for a living.
Is this what
people want to emulate?
Italian-Americans, like any other ethnic group, are a diverse lot. We
are
garbagemen and Ph.D's. We are senators and sales clerks, family men
and
artists, biologists and bartenders. We are just like everybody else,
but
somehow the popular imagination is only allowed to hold one type in
its collective mind, and have it hammered in again and again.
I'll tell you a story. My relatives came to this country over a period
of about
40 years, from the 1870s to the 1910s. They were uneducated and poor,
but they came here to find a better way of life. In Italy they had
basically
nothing, and they had heard that there were endless opportunities in
the
USA. Each and every one of them worked like dogs to make a living,
learn
English, and make a better life for their children. They didn't carry
guns.
They didn't push people around. They didn't join the Mafia. My mother's
father once accidentally witnessed a Mafia murder, a man being stomped
to death.My grandfather was taken to the very edge of a roof of a building
so that he had to look down on the street below, and was asked if he
would
ever report what he had seen. No, of course not, said my grandfather,
and
he was allowed to go home in one piece. This example was a lesson,
something to be feared, and not ever something to be admired or imitated.
Ours is the typical immigrant story and experience. An in-depth and
well-written discussion of the Italian-American experience can be found
in
Maria Laurino's Were You Always An Italian?, published last year. Laurino,
who grew up in New Jersey, relates her experiences of growing up as
a
third-generation Italian in the United States and still being treated
like an
outsider, still being made to feel less than equal, or something other
than a
white American. Her personal story discusses all the stereotypes, but
also
is an interesting tale about the language, food and family we were
surrounded by.
I relate to this 100 percent, although my transition to outsider came
out
later in life than hers did. Growing up in a mixed neighborhood in
Yonkers,
and attending schools through high school with a healthy mix of immigrant
backgrounds, I never really felt different because I was surrounded
more or
less by my own kind.
That was until I started college, where I soon discovered that not only
is the
world not filled with Italian Roman Catholics, but somehow I was not
the
norm.My skin was darker. My food choices were different. I got every
kind of
comment from "you're the darkest white person I've ever met," to "how
could
you be named Flynn? You must be Black Irish." (My father's stepfather
was
Flynn.) It was a whole new world to me, as my life was to my new
acquaintances. So what does this have to do with anything?
I am proud of my family; I am proud of the work they did, the struggles
they
endured, and the way each generation nutured and pushed the next one
to
do better. I know that there are so many others whose stories are the
same.
I do not see these people represented by the media; I see the caricatures
in
The Sopranos and movies like Saturday Night Fever and Moonstruck (written
by non-Italians, by the way). Why is it that people admire this crap?
Why do
people want to go on a Sopranos Tour (an On Location Tour flyer offering
tours to sites used in The Sopranos, including "the diner where Chris
was
shot" and "the Bada Bing night club," crossed my desk the other day)?
I suppose it's because it looks exciting and macho on TV and the movies.
I suppose it's fun to ridicule others. It seems that in this case,
some people
seem to have a harder time than usual separating art from life. But
you
know what? It's disgusting and insulting to those of us who can't stand
to
once again see our heritage and lives become the butt of a twisted
stereotype.
I might be able to make a mean marinara, enjoy cannolis, remember
Sicilian being spoken at home when I was growing up, and have dark
skin,
but I do not want to be reduced to a parody.
Let's take prejudice from another angle. Are all Anglo-Saxons tight-assed
whiteys? I don't know, but maybe someone should start parodying them
in
the media as one-sided, stupid, fearful, violent and worthy of mockery,
and
see if they like it.
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