Thursday, January 17, 2008

Learn How to Live Life by Copying the Italians

The ANNOTICO Report

 

Danny Bernardi who lives in Birmingham England, but visits Italy frequently, spoke to a number of young Italians who were educated and frustrated, seemingly unable to capitalize on their skills and academic qualifications (in Italy). Some of these young people told me they wanted to come to the UK where they had heard there were rich pickings. “Was it true?” they asked me.

 

Yes, it’s true. You will probably find a job and earn some decent money, I told them. I felt it only fair to point out the downside. Rents and mortgages are high and the food is not only bad but also expensive. More importantly, I continued, everything is incredibly hectic and you will probably be so busy commuting and working that you won’t have a life! There will also be less time for your friends and you can forget lunch! The leisurely evening passeggiata with it’s slow stop for gelato or coffee will be replaced by the Great British Pub Crawl which involves liver numbing quantities of alcohol consumed within a staggeringly short time span. My anecdotal observations of British life seemed to be enough to discourage most I spoke to.

 

Learn How to Live Life by Copying the Italians

 

American Chronicle - Beverly Hills,CA,USA

By Danny Bernardi

January 16, 2008

 

In the United Kingdom The Childrens Society is to set up an independent inquiry to look at all aspects of childhood amid growing concerns over the health and quality of childrens lives. Complex family structures and an overwhelming number of exams and assessments means our kids are filling their faces with junk food, spending hours alone in front of computer screens and suffering from stress. Their poor parents, meanwhile, seem oblivious to all this as they rush around trying to cram as much as possible into already overcrowded schedules. It would seem our lives are now lived at breakneck pace with little time for some of the simpler pleasures. Being idle is a sin and slowing down practically unthinkable! The importance of paid work and the primacy of economic competitiveness, whatever the personal costs, is almost accepted wisdom in here in the UK.

Having just returned from an extended writing trip to Italy (where I live for part of the year) it has become obvi ous to me that the contrast in lifestyles between the two countries could not be greater. Sure, the Italians have their own problems and their fair share of stress but they do seem to have their priorities better thought out. The Italian government doesnt need to trumpet family friendly policies or work life balance initiatives because it's people instinctively value leisure time and realise what is important.

In Italy the extent to which the different generations mix with ease is also striking. Older members of the community sit around chatting whilst keeping a watchful eye on children playing in the square. At first glance these children seem to be running amok in a very unstructured manner. In reality their play is simple and unhurried while our own offspring seem stuck in their rooms, glued to shoot em up games or else they are being frantically ferried around from one organised activity to another.

The importance of taking a few moments out of the day to sit down for a break is also important for Italians. A coffee stop is considered a virtual human right and there appears to be a national commitment to living life at an even pace. Meals can take hours to consume and lunch is a non-negotiable part of the Italian working day. The typical British schedule, however, leaves us guilt-ridden if were still for more than a few moments. Sadly, frantic activity and full diaries have become the norm.

Visitors to Italy should also be aware of a social phenomenon which I have dubbed The Italian Distraction. Far from being unpleasant this social technique is, in fact, designed to force you to relax. I suspect it may even be some covert government initiative to preserve the quality of Italian life. The Italian Distraction invariably involves two people meeting by chance. There then follows a lengthy conversation about nothing in particular. A third or even a fourth person may join in. After a respectable amount of time a joint decision is invariably taken to continue the discussion over coffee, a glass of wine or perhaps a meal. Thus, a five minute trip out for a pint of milk or newspaper could take all morning. Italians do not seem to consider such time wasted  far from it  the Italian Distraction is an important part of daily life.

 

Ultimately, any way of life is all about choices. Here in the UK wed rather spend our spare time at home engrossed in DIY or consuming in huge shopping malls. The Italians would rather just wander out and about to see what emerges.

Obviously, I am generalising and there are exceptions to the rule. I spoke to a number of young Italians who were educated and frustrated, seemingly unable to capitalise on their skills and academic qualifications. Some of these young people told me they wanted to come to the UK where they had heard there were rich pickings. Was it true? they asked me. Yes, its true. You will probably find a job and earn some decent money, I told them. I felt it only fair to point out the downside. Rents and mortgages are high and the food is not only bad but also expensive. More importantly, I continued, everything is incredibly hectic and you will probably be so busy commuting and working that you wont have a life! There will also be less ti me for your friends and you can forget lunch! The leisurely evening passeggiata with its slow stop for gelato or coffee will be replaced by the Great British Pub Crawl which involves liver numbing quantities of alcohol consumed within a staggeringly short time span.'

My anecdotal observations of British life seemed to be enough to discourage most I spoke to. Sure, Italy has an underperforming economy, it's fair share of corrupt politicians and the worlds most frustrating bureaucracy but it still possesses a great quality of life and there are some things money just cant buy. Whats the point working crazy hours, sacrificing your family and social life if youre going to die before your time of a stress related disease due to over work? It is no accident the Italians stay healthier for longer than we do. Maybe this is because our Mediterranean cousins view their existence as a joyful jog rather than some crazy lone sprint where profits and short term efficiency gai ns are placed above anything else.

Danny Bernardi is a writer and novelist based in Birmingham, the UKs second city. He is a regular contributor of articles and fiction to various online ezines and news sites. He is  the author of "Under the Rotunda", a novel which deals, in part, with the work life balance. It is available from www.amazon.com or www.amazon.co.uk

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